"The Master's Tools Will Never Dismantle The Master's House"

“As woman, we have been taught to either ignore our differences or to view them as causes for separation and suspicion rather than as forces of change.” (Moraga & Anzaldua, 2015, pg.95)  I remember that my mother would always tell us girls that we will always be that woman that will stay home cook, clean, teaching our children and obey our husband.  She expected us to be the old fashion house wife, so when my sister and I decided to go to college she would tell us that this change in our lives would harm us in a way that we might not like.  Well, as for me I believe that women have always been and always will be the ones that will rule the world and their homes because women has the child, raise the boy that become a man and the girl to become the woman that will become the ruler of her house.  She’s the one to teach him as he is growing.  It may seem that we have been behind the curtain of men society, but in reality they can not tell that we have been the ones to tell them what to do. "The Master's Tools Will Never Dismantle The Master's House" (Moraga & Anzaldua, 2015, pg 94)  We women are the master's house because we rule in our homes and with our husbands/partner.  So it will never be dismantle.

“Those of us who stands outside the circle of this society’s definition of acceptable women; those of us who have been forged in the crucibles of difference; those of us who are poor, who are lesbians, who are black, who are older, know that survival is not an academic skill.” (Moraga & Anzaldua, 2015, pg. 95).  As women we prepare ourselves to survive this world. Men and whites have made our lives very hard, just because we are women.  No matter the change we are be able to handle anything.  I remember one night it was one o'clock in the morning and I was studying for an exam, my father told me “Mija usted tiene que estudiar mucho para que no dependa de ningun hombre.  Para cuando se enfrente con una situacion dificil usted puda resolver el problema.” " Little one you need to study a lot so that you don't have to depend one a man.  So when you come up with a big problem you are able to handle it.  I keep these words very deep in my heart since that day. I listen to him, I have been a strong person since then that changes in my life has been good instead of bad. 

“Perhaps white women are so rarely loyal because they do not have to be     There are thousands of them to pick up & discard    No responsibility to others     The bathing beauties     They want the status of reality & respect without labor “ (Moraga & Anzaldua, 2015, pg. 67).   I remember that my mother would tell us that she would work with these white women that would treat her good but others bad.   She would work every day because she would take care of their children.   The white women believe that they had the right to do anything with the women of color.  It’s true with my mom that these white women would think at they had no responsibilities with them, they would be beauty queens, and would not respect them.  After some years she made a promise to God that if she would get her a house here in El Paso, Tx.  She would help all those women that did not have papers to work here.  She would help them find work at houses and they would stay at her house Sunday through Friday.  Like I say women rule at their house.  She did this for them for ten years.  So these people would not have to suffer a lot in this country.

“En boca cerrada no entran moscas “Flies don’t enter a closed mouth” is a saying  I kept hearing when I was a child.  Ser habladora was to be a gossip and a liar, to talk too much.  Muchachitas bien cradas, well-bred girls don’t answer back.  Es una falta de respeto to talk back to one’s mother and father.” (Anzaldua 2012, pg 76). I love this book it reminded me a lot of my mom.  She past away eight years ago.  She would always give us saying to whatever she wanted to express.  A lesson she wanted to teach us.  I remember that she would say “Ve, hoye, y calla  y aprende de los demas.”  Look, hear, be silent and learn from others.  In this society we do need to learn about the world.  We need to look and hear our surrounding in order to be able to defend ourselves from those people that don’t care about anyone but themselves.  We shouldn’t have to defend ourselves from this world, we should be able to get along, so this world can be a better place.   As the years go on the world is becoming a place where our generation will only hate each rather than loving each other.  I know it is hard not to be a mean to people that treats you like crap.  I should know, I live with a person that is so negative, he see only the bad things.  I have tried so hard to teach him to become a positive person but I have not succeed.  He has been in a world of hate, cruelty, evil, hateful, and etc.  That it is hard for him to change he says.  I really don't believe that, I believe that if you want to be a better person,  you will be.  

Overall, mothers have taught men to become what they are because she is the one who is the teacher since day one.  She shows them how to be sensitive, aggressive, mean, compassion, and many other feelings.  She tells them what to do as they get older, sometimes she tells them if someone does something to you then you do something to them.  Their are very few moms that say just go with an adult to help you solve the problem.  So what happens they start being mean to others.  She also taught us women to become the servant, the nurse, the secretary, the counselor, the protector and many other things.   Not only do we do all this,  we are also the provider of the family.  The problem of all this is that at the end we are the ones who chooses how to be with others. No matter how life treats us we are able to change ourselves an other if we put our minds in to it.  

Sources

Anzaldua, G. (2012). Borderlands La Frontera The New Mestiza (4th ed.). San Francisco, CA: Aunt Lute Books.

Moraga, C., & Anzaldua, G. (2015). This Bridge Called My Back (4th ed.). Albany, NY: State University of New York Press.